In a Perfect World That Forces You!

The warmth season of the year is back and it’s going to be Valentine’s Day drama all over the place again. As a marketer, in all fairness I love this season when even a rose petal can be sold at ridiculous prices with absolutely zero effort. Still, as just another common citizen and a responsible human, the basic question happens to be “is it actually worth the hype it gets”.

Love is like an ocean, love is like the sun and I would dedicate my whole life for that special one. Yeah true. And the special one comes with a validity period for most people of our generation. I am not stereotyping, maximum of the relationships that we encounter are based on certain critical factors and for some weird reason, factors other than love.

All this introduction was just to narrow down my thoughts to one hypothesis “People do things because the world forces them to do so” and the most disastrous thing amongst all of those is getting into a relationship.

It is not the only thing for sure. Learning music, getting on a roller coaster despite having acrophobia, driving at blistering speed despite knowing you are not Luke Skywalker, buying a phone half the worth of the annual pay, and of course becoming engineers. The list is huge and I could fill many additional sheets of such things if this were an exam.

May be, all these are because of the fact that we just let “others” to choose our choices and we are bound to maintain some virtual standards that mean nothing to us. What maximum can we get from these acts? A myth of satisfaction? A feeble circle of confidence? A brittle self confidence? Still, nothing stops us and we just go for it just to save time and our brain’s efforts.

I am sure most of us would agree to the fact that the person who is honest and admits his/her weakness is the easiest one to pick on. Still, acceptance with a little show of attitude and the confidence to say “I am not good at it coz I have no interest in it” would make the difference.

Ashamed of being oneself speaks about low self esteem. Being happy and proud of what I am creates respect/fear among the peers/competitors, though they are better than what I am. For sure, Mr. Maslow would have hated the latter class of people as he was left with nothing to sell to them.

Just try accepting and saying people about things that you are not good at. Either you get tips (from those who think they are good at it) or empathy (from the ones who are actually good at it). Both the cases the other person is happy and hence the equation balances.

By the way, Happy Valentine’s week relationship geeks. I am terribly bad at it.

Be yourself and have a blast!

Bingo.