Sunday, March 18, 2012

Are you a good relationship manager?


“Mana” “Dama”ging relationships – Ask Srini


When everyone speaks philosophy about relationships and stuff that has no meaning and value addition, I laugh at them. For a simple reason that it is the benefits that people get from relationships and not the relationship itself that matters.

You got to be a good trader
I had been advocating the fact that even friendship is a form of trade, which some people don’t accept and some people even go the extent of calling me a crazy person who does not know the meaning of emotions. I still ask them only one question. If time spent together is a measure of a good relationship, it is a trade. If the degree to which other person listens and cares for you is a measure, relationship is a trade. If being there for you under any circumstance is a measure, relationship is a trade.

Finally economics comes in handy
It is all about giving a little and taking a lot. This is a really confusing equation as the giver feels the worth of things that are given, more than the taker. To be more precise, sacrificing a match is a great sacrifice for the reason that I love football. But value is always based on the perception from the receiving end. And believe me, this equation can never be solved unless there are numerous variables which balance from either sides, and finding them out is a Himalayan task.


In an unlimited buffet choose the right menu
But still the person, who clearly defines his /her equation and customizes it quickly for different recipients, becomes the most loved person. It is simply serving the preferred dished on right plates. You may very well come across stale food on your plates, but who knows recession may hit and the stale food becomes the main course. So, my sincere request is you may have stale food, but don’t reveal the status to them. Keep tasting and appreciating every dish.
Things do not ever happen the way we want. There may be spills from the plate which becomes inevitable. But ensuring that they do not spill on us and create a stain is the most important factor. Understand the logic behind human relationships is so important – nothing and no one is as exciting as the first meet and charm reduces over a period of time. Jokes become nonsense, care becomes disturbance, and love becomes stupidity.

Controlled "Damage" is the new mantra
So, the best thing about managing relationships is damaging them at the “right time”. Sounds stupid, but trust me, this is the best way of fool proofing from being called a stupid. Either you become stupid or make others look so. The option is open and perfectly within one’s control. Damaging is a little tough to do. It is highly dependent on others too. They may be stubborn against the damage as the benefits are not yet perfectly extracted. Be careful, you lose the chance; others get the upper hand and throw you later. At the end of the day, it is all about who looks brilliant!!!

It’s all about Damaging and not Managing, which will fetch you pride and importance in any relationship.
Stay tuned for more.. :)